About

Hello!

Thank you for stopping by this page to take a closer look at me, the person behind Habits That Help.

It is my purpose in life to serve God by serving people. I will serve by first being the very best me I can be!

To lead you at my highest and best, I’ve got to be walking the talk at my highest and best.  I also have to succeed at being a good follower.  Every coach has to be first coach-able .

My spiritual guide is Dr. Therman E. Evans, Senior Pastor of Morning Star Community Christian Center.    Dr. Evans is also a physician, motivational speaker and author.  His latest book From Purpose to Promise Driven Life: A Prescription for Making the Difference You were Born to Make was my favorite book of 2009.  It’s a ‘must-read’ for anyone serious about their spiritual development.

My work is all about helping to build the capacity of individuals, organizations and society. Helping others to have a positive and lasting impact in our world makes me very happy.

I grew up in Trinidad (in the West Indies) and I have vivid memories of playing at being a teacher, teaching the alphabets to 2 year olds when I was just 5. My mother used to love to remind me of how I even wore high heeled shoes (hers of course) to do my teaching. I just can’t recall a time when helping, teaching and coaching wasn’t a major source of joy.

Here’s how I do my work:

►coaching individuals – through the forgiveness process, creating new success habits like communication, accountability, organization, goal-setting, etc –each skill can link to a description, outline {MAYBE!] might be giving too much information away with an emphasis on self-image mastery.

►training and facilitating groups within organizations

►writing books and creating products to inform and transform

► helping to establish and build  the legacy of my clients.

This is what I was placed here on earth to do; capacity development.  I do this  by helping you to create your best life, to positively impact the world and to leave a lasting legacy.

I am a deeply faithful woman of God; more at peace with the “spiritual” rather than the “religious” description as I have found the former to be more inclusive.

As a lover of people, I am deeply gratified by my work. It’s not work in the traditional sense of the word – arduous, energy draining, ‘not fun’…for me, work is an opportunity for serious fun.  Instead of energy draining it’s uplifting and invigorating. Time flies and there’re a lot of smiles. J

This is how work should be for anyone who is connected to their passion and at the same time, providing a service that brings value to the world.

When I’m not working, I am with my family – husband, Chris and 3 children. Oh! We can’t forget Benny the cocker spaniel, Snowy the Bishon and Molly and Angel the cats.

I hope your visit here is fruitful.  I invite you to sign up for the 21-day series offered on this page – left margin.   It’s free and life-changing… IF you are committed to personal empowerment and your intention is to impact the world.

Let’s be the change our world so urgently needs!

Wishing you an abundance of joy, peace and light.

JuletteMillien.com - creating new success habits than help change the world.

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For my personal story of my forgiveness journey, you can go here.

 

Our Vision, Purpose & Mission

Vision: What we see when our purpose is fulfilled and our mission accomplished?

We see a world that is healed where people are free and living at their highest & best as we serve each other and future generations.

Purpose: What is our driving passion, coming from/resides in our heart, the fuel for our mission?

  • To help individuals, teams and organizations to heal, grow and serve
  • To empower individuals with excellent personal and work habits so they could positively impact the world
  • To spread the healing power of forgiveness

Mission: How will this all get done? What will we be doing – actual action we will be taking to achieve our purpose and realize our vision?

  • Provide products and programs designed to create lasting transformations
  • Be a product of our products
  • Have programs accessible to all

The Five B.A.S.I.C™ Principles of Life:

The following five BASIC principles serve as a blueprint for every aspect of life. They guide how I live life, how I parent, how I teach and coach and they are the conceptual foundation of all my writings, products and services.  I often challenge groups and individuals to come up with a principle or essential habit that DOES NOT fall into one of these five principles.  No one has as yet!

1. Benevolence:  All real and lasting success must be linked to a higher purpose of service and a spirit of generosity.  Benevolence is about love – being able to give it and receive it. As you consider creating new habits, being whole and impacting the world think about how you can invoke the principle of benevolence in all you do.  If this is a  challenge – if being loving, kind and generous does not come easily for you, this will be an area to concentrate on if impacting the world (positively) is your goal.

My husband participated in a Success Habits in 21 Days program some time ago and he actually chose to work on smiling more!  Simple habit but my goodness how it ripples through all of life!  And what a tough habit (serious expressions) to break!  But he did it.  The effect on relationships, business and on his own sense of peace and joy was amazing.

2.  Self-Efficacy:  This is pretty straight forward.  There is no success without getting things done.  If you’re not able to accomplish what needs to be accomplished on a daily basis, you won’t be achieving success on any level – personal or in service to others.

3.  Integrity: However you define success – peace, joy, prosperity, etc…being a person of your word and having high standards of conduct is pivotal.  Being able to be free to be who you are privately in your public and business life is about integrity. In web 2.0 language it’s about being transparent.  A high level of success requires unquestioned credibility and integrity. This of course transfers directly to any work you take on as you attempt to have impact in the world.

4.  Creativity: Being able to find solutions for challenges in your business and personal life is about creativity.  I used to think that creativity was only about the arts.  I didn’t see myself as a creative person.  But thank God for progress, I now know better.  Creativity is a vital principle of success and of life.  There is no success without finding solutions for life’s challenges and being able to think outside the box.  And of course life itself is based on the creative principle of progressing one stage to the next.

5.  Consistency: You’ve got to be able to do it all (practice the other 4 principles) everyday. Oh of course people have bad days or moments.  My Pastor (Dr. Therman Evans) just said something in church on Sunday that was perfect.  Having “a moment” doesn’t mean you’re not on the mission!  We’re human, we have moments; we even have days!  The thing is to recognize your moment, see it for what it is (be accountable to yourself) and move on. This is the principle that is primarily about forming habits: being consistent with your effort and commitment.

Together these principles form the conceptual and practical foundation of life, success and, of creating new habits that help.

If you sign-up for the free offer (in right margin of this page)  21 Days of Taking Action: How To Create a Powerful New Success Habit you can choose to create a new habit from one of these five areas. Then, you will have to get more specific and think of action items you can take daily to make the principle a powerful new habit in your life.  My husband working on ‘smiling’ surely helped him to be perceived as and actually BE more benevolent through his actions. He was always one of the most benevolent people I knew but it wasn’t always obvious on the outside.

This is the thing: Many times our inner beauty and magnificence is not what people perceive because of bad habits that need changing!

Now, in order to live a balanced life you’ve got to think about your habits in each of The Five Vital Venues of Life.You don’t want to be a raving success in business but have a horrible family life, or vice versa (even though I’d take the latter over the former any day!)  You don’t want to have an imbalanced life – that is not success and it certainly would not impact the world in a balanced and lasting way.

Suggested Exercise: Try these principles on for a few days and see how they wear.  Apply them to your work, your home, your relationships and certainly to your decisions.  At key moments just ask yourself, “am I being benevolent?”  Do the same for the other principles and see if you don’t become more conscious and empowered.

Have fun! :-)

The Five Vital Venues are:

1. Self – (where most of the self-help [or shelf-help] industry spends its time!) this is anything to do with self-improvement, spiritual and emotional maturity, personal habits, health & wellness, personal spending, etc…

2. Relationships – the dynamics of relationships, communication, and all that goes into having loving, open and thriving relationships falls into this venue

3. Home – this venue is all about where you call home and all that happens there:  Your family life, the spirit of your home, the look and feel of your home, the peace of your home.  This venue is so important!  If your home life is not right, meaning it doesn’t nourish and sustain you, it would be impossible to maintain a successful life on the outside.  People do it, but that’s not success.

4. Work/Business – This venue is about the workplace and all that goes on there: Your career advancement or ability to grow your business. For many people this venue is most of their life and all other venues are ignored.  Most imbalances come from this venue getting too much of your available time and energy.  But also, many of what goes on in this venue is like a rat in a maze (hence the term rat race.)   People are very busy but because of bad or ineffective habits, their work is not as fruitful as it could be or as they need it to be. Powerful success habits are needed to work smarter.

5. Community/Church – For life to be truly balanced it has to have a ‘reach out’ component.  It can’t be all about you, your home, your family and the business.  Giving something back to the community is crucial.  Service is actually one of the essential habits of success and prosperity.  Fellowshipping with fellow church members, with neighbors and the business community is a vital part of success.  And not just for the socializing piece either.  We have to be part of or lead programs that help other people who are not as fortunate as we are.   We all live in a community and we have a responsibility to be a player, active in some aspect of that community’s well being.  Being on the sidelines is not an option.

Suggested Exercise: Review these 5 vital venues and decide which venue you will concentrate on.  A quick assessment will help.  On a scale of 1-10 where would you rate your success in each venue?  How happy are you with how life is in each venue? The one with the lowest rating might be a good place to take action and create more space for improvement activites.

 

Core Mindset:  Forgiveness.

This is huge!  I used to think of forgiveness as one of the essential habits or skills of success, of life in general….but I had to pull it out and give it a special place in the conceptual framework of my offerings.

Forgiveness is a required and core mindset for success.  You have to live so you are free to create, to produce and to receive the blessings of your magnificent purpose.  The only way to do this is with a forgiving mindset and heart.  Extra baggage as you travel through life sabotages any chance of sustained joy, peace and prosperity.

On a daily basis, releasing all anxiety and fear clears your mind and opens your heart for life to come in. Living and working with an expectation to forgive and even more so, with a mindset to be less and less offended by what life brings and what people do, THAT is having a forgiveness mindset.

Related Article:

Forgiving Leads to OUTRAGEOUS Productivity!

More articles at HowDoIForgive.com

Why Habits that help?

I have been working in the self-help industry for almost three decades.  I’ve coached hundreds of people and taught thousands.

Burn-out for me came in 1998. I wish I could give the details but ethics won’t allow.  I can only give a general overview.  While I was coaching a senior executive on presentation skills, I realized he was about to make a presentation to his board on a subject that was controversial.  My client’s position was self-serving, I thought.  Unfortunately it had nothing to do with helping the employees or the community. It actually was a request for a program that would reduce customer service significantly.

I had one of those “why am I spending my day doing this” moments. On the flight back home, I gave serious thought to exactly what it was about my day that was not gratifying.

That’s when I came up with the phrase “I only want to help people (with public speaking) who have something to say.” I know that seems arrogant – who am I to say who has something to say, right?  Well at the time, I needed a bit more hubris in the area of managing my life.  During the 4 hours of that flight home, I came up with a game plan for ending my work days with more gratitude and joy.

Though I grew up with big dreams of positively impacting the world and launched my coaching/training career with that mission, the allure of getting paid really well had lulled my senses and high expectations for my life.

I got off that flight energized and committed to helping people who were helping people. Programs to do with self-image mastery, forgiveness, communication, organization, accountability and on how to create powerful new success habits were created.

For the past decade my work has centered on helping people create ‘habits that help.’

So here’s our reason for existing:

  • We are here to assist you, or your organization with personal development that matters…the kind that leads to service that impacts the world.
  • We are passionate about helping you build on your strengths and passions as you create a lasting legacy

Personal growth for its own sake is NOT what we are about.

So if you are a person with a desire to be your best possible self AND to positively impact the world and/or you represent an organization with a sincere commitment to service, our products and services are designed specifically with you in mind.

With habits that help we can be the change the world so urgently needs.