Hello!
This detox is so powerful. My every thought is impacted by it. Like an anchor, the thought that I have made this commitment to honor these 21 challenges is always pulling me back from some possibly dismal thought.
This morning I lapsed – scolded my son in a way that was way too laden with frustration. But I know if I had stepped away for a moment it would’ve been different -as it has been many times in the past. It’s an extremely busy week for me – planning events, business deadlines, sessions as usual with clients, holiday parties, writing…I can go on and on, suffice it to say I am being stretched to the hilt. So this detox is even more challenging.
But I’m finding that it’s even more necessary and helpful too. This morning, except for my one lapse, at least 5 other times I was beginning to voice something that I pulled back in and decided to think about it another way. It’s not about containing or stifling negative feelings, it’s about re-framing the emotion and determining yourself to SEE it and FEEL it another more empowering way. This is working for me, big time and I hope it is for you as well.
It even worked as I had my first “miss my momma” weep of the season. I was listening to Silent Night by the Temptations and it just hit me, hard and fast. I wept, gave in to it completely and just missed her so much. She passed on 6 years ago and it was around the holiday season, a week before Christmas. My family is having our (used to be) annual holiday party this weekend and its the first time since she died that we’re having it. So, she is very much in the air for me…and this song just took me to a place of deep longing for my wonderful mother. She was love in action, truly.
But how did the detox help? My weeping wasn’t a pity party it was honest and pure, even empowering because I remembered the journey I’m on and purposed myself to be fully in the moment. On some level I knew I would come out of it stronger after connecting with the spirit of my mother for a few minutes. I surrendered to the moment in a positive and uplifting way.
And that’s the magic of the 21 day detox…it can keep you on the empowering path of positive thinking/feeling/doing, no matter the circumstances.
So ‘take time to cry’ literally and metaphorically – take time to be real, in the moment and true to your emotions. Just remember the journey you’re on and do your best. That’s all we can ask of ourselves: Our very best at what we do.
Wishing you an abundance of peace, joy and love,
♥~
This message is part of the 21-Day Detox Challenge – Spirit, Mind & Body: Day 1. The program includes preparation exercises and specific planning and all previous messages can be found here.video introduction is here.
This series began on December 8, 2010. By following the directions, you can begin this detox challenge in its entirety whenever you would like…or catch up and join us!
All program downloads can be found here (chart of challenges, self-evaluation, agreement form and handy checklist of all preparation exercises)
This was a very powerful post today Jul. December is a rough month for me too. My grandfather died in December, his birthday is also in December and the holidays have not been the same since he passed away. It is good to stop every once in awhile and just let our emotions flow. We get so caught up in “doing” we do spend enough time just “being” and allowing ourselves to feel what we feel.
Hi Breia!
Doing has gotten out of control for real! You’re so right. If we dedicated ourselves to BEing what we’re trying to do, what an authentic life we would lead.
My heart is with you during this month… your grandfather would be so proud of you! What a blessing you are.
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