Hello My Friend,
I think it’s pretty much common knowledge these days that to succeed we have to fail. Folks just happen to conveniently forget what they know in the midst of “stuff!”
We want to feel what we feel while we’re feeling it and, there’s nothing but our will to practice what we know that will interrupt that pattern of feelings.
If you reflect on these common “failures” and come to terms with your version…and the lessons learned, you will be much more likely to act from what you KNOW to be the truth the next time you are in the midst of processing a “failure.”
Failure is in quotation marks, btw, because when we take failure and turn it into an opportunity or even a blessing, it’s a bit hard to think negatively about the so called failure and all that comes with it.
Here are the top 3 common “failures” – (taken from numerous sessions, conversations and research on the topic):
1. Failure to appreciate what we have when we have it so we lose a relationship or person or possession…
2. Failure to achieve a goal because of something within our control – like our output, commitment, habits, thoughts, distractions, etc.
3. Failure to communicate in a timely and sincere fashion…when needed, resulting in conflict and strife in relationships – personally and professionally.
These have been shared with me again and again and I have had my share of failures in those categories along the way and over the years.
If you have experienced any or all three did you get and apply these lessons?
1. Failure to appreciate: Did you learn gratitude and now practice it without even having to think about it? Do you appreciate and show your appreciation for your loved ones? Do you appreciate the things you do have even as you go after new things?
2. Failure to achieve: Did you review your actions and behaviors when you failed to achieve specific goals in the past? Have you made the necessary changes in habits, knowledge and commitment level so goals can be achieved as set/intended? Do you track your progress and are you accountable for what you do not accomplish?
3. Failure to communicate: Did you recognize the failure to communicate when it occurred? Have you started to improve your communication skills? Did you seek help? Are your skills improving? How do you know?
Reflect honestly and courageously on these questions, on your “failures” and on the lessons learned.
Resulting from your so called failures and your reactions to them, what new opportunities, relationships and insights have you gained?
After reflecting, answer the questions, in writing and share with a trusted friend or coach who can serve as your accountability partner moving forward.
When you realize and internalize the power of mistakes and “failures” you will have succeeded.
Wishing you an abundance of light and love and lessons,
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