Hello Dear One,
This is very important.
“I don’t come from slaves. I come from human beings who were enslaved.” Makota Valdina.
I Love it!
The latter is a far more empowering perspective. How we think it we will live it.
In the same way I refuse to consider myself a “childhood sexual abuse victim” or even a “survivor” – Instead, I don’t claim any label or title attached to that experience.
I survived (and have even thrived after) sexual abuse as a child.
I survived (and have even thrived after) sexual abuse as a child.
It’s something that happened NOT something I am.
Refrain from labeling yourself (and others) by your mistakes or challenges – so much comes with the baggage attached to labels. When we do a thing or it happens to us, we DO NOT become that thing/event.
Exercise:1. Monitor your thoughts, especially your self-directed thoughts for a period of time (begin with a 15 minute period)
2. Take note of everything positive and negative – record a few notes and any recurring themes and statements
3. Wear a rubber band and snap it each time a negative thought pops into your mind
4. Take the thought and restate it – make it positive
5. State it out loud, with passion – the positive one
Do this consistently and change the way you speak to yourself. Some alarming insights might surface; explore them but keep all guilt and shame out of it. We do better when we know better. Hopefully.Forgive yourself for past actions and move forward.
Negativity towards others is often due to negativity towards self. And we do tend to attract into our life what it is we are already feeling about our self. So commit to going on another, improved path today. End the negativity and be the amazing person you were created to be.
Don’t take the God out of yourself or others. That’s what we do when we reduce people to a label or a negative description. I can go on and on on this one. It is so very important!
Sending you an abundance of love, joy and peace,
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