Hello Dear One,
I cannot tell you how many times this issue has surfaced in conversations and sessions with people who are struggling with forgiveness. We are born to love and be at peace with each other. When something stops this flow of energy, you can be sure there is a reason.
If you find forgiveness is eluding you; your heart is heavy with something that although you truly would like to release it, it continues to weigh on your mind and heart, then I urge you to stop and consider this explanation.
There is probably something you have not forgiven yourself for. Here are some possibilities to ponder:
Do you blame yourself for any aspect of the violation that occurred? (whether we are right or not, sometimes we blame ourselves for things completely out of our control…)
Do you feel any degree of shame about what transpired?
Are you experiencing guilt about your perceived role OR about getting offended or violated in the first place?
Sometimes our guilt has absolutely nothing to do with the event or violation in question – it may be connected to unrelated situations and behaviors. But if you are feeling guilty about anything, beating up on yourself about anything, chances are your heart is heavy and the weight is blocking the flow of forgiveness in your life.
So some reflection here would be a very good thing. Of course there may be other explanations for un-forgiveness – fear, ego, anger, etc., but very often you can trace things back to you being excessively hard on yourself and not permitting yourself to enjoy the healing power of forgiveness, first hand.
If you felt it, you would spread it. 🙂
Wishing you an abundance of love and forgiveness,
~♥~